What Safety Rules Can Parents Follow to Reduce the Risk of Harm from Violence?

For those families living in a home where domestic abuse is present it is important that a safety plan is in place. Part of that safety plan should include safety rules.

These rules should be followed as a part of the safety planning carried out with families who are living with domestic abuse. For guidance on how to complete safety planning please visit our post how to complete safety planning with families.

The importance of safety rules

The following are rules that should be used within safety planning work carried out with all families that are living with domestic abuse this should always have the children's safety and protection as the primary concern. Printable infographics, with more concise guidance and safety rules, are available at the end of this post.

1. Keep your distance - keep at least 6 feet apart, step back if you are face to face
   

2. Sit down - If one or both of you are standing then both sit down
   

3. Not in front of the children- No heated arguments or fighting in front of the children
   

4. High risk areas - No arguing in an area where there are dangerous objects (usually the kitchen)
   

5. Quieten down - No shouting or raising your voice
   

6. Language - No swearing and absolutely no name calling
   

7. No substances - No taking of drugs or alcohol when feeling upset or angry
   

8. Use the plan - Use the safety/time out plan before matters escalate

It is important that these rules are clear and well known to the parents who agree to follow them as part of their safety plan.

Resources

Safety planning and safety rules are available on the following infographics, you can print these yourself from our resources page or contact us to receive copies printed on card.

For further advice on working with families affected by domestic abuse or if you would like more information on our risk assessment training or other services we provide please visit our site dvact.org or contact us to speak to one of our experts.

Helplines

Helplines are available for both perpetrators and victims of domestic abuse:

National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247

The Men’s Advice Line, for male domestic abuse survivors – 0808 801 0327

Respect phoneline for perpetrators of domestic abuse - 0808 8024040

The Mix, free information and support for under 25s in the UK – 0808 808 4994

National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0800 999 5428

Samaritans (24/7 service) – 116 123 Call the UK police non-emergency number, 101, if you need support or advice from the police and it's not an emergency.